{"id":4261,"date":"2019-06-27T09:48:44","date_gmt":"2019-06-27T09:48:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.khandarstudio.com\/nikah\/?p=4261"},"modified":"2020-07-25T17:19:33","modified_gmt":"2020-07-25T11:49:33","slug":"attending-a-kashmiri-wedding-non-kashmiri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.khandarstudio.com\/kashmiri-wedding\/attending-a-kashmiri-wedding-non-kashmiri\/","title":{"rendered":"Everything You Need to Know About A Kashmiri Wedding: The Complete Guide"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When you think about Kashmir, the things that come into your mind are its cool weather, Srinagar\u2019s serene shikara rides and the floating market of Dal Lake<\/a>. The list continues with the majestic mountains and the lush green valleys which resemble white and green sapphires embedded in a crown. Everyone who knows about this paradise wants to visit at least once in life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rarely, anyone thinks of Kashmiri weddings,\nwhich are an exquisite event in itself. Coupled with Kashmiri traditions and\nculture, we assure you that our Kashmiri weddings are as much as alluring as\nanything about Kashmir or Kashmiris itself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are attending a Kashmiri wedding<\/a> for the first time or you are curious about Kashmiri weddings in general, allow us to present a gist of this grand celebration i.e. a Kashmiri Muslim wedding. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wedding Ceremonies<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Kashmiri wedding functions are held\nseparately for the bride and groom; two days on the bride\u2019s side and three days\non the groom\u2019s side. The couple meets on the day of baraat only. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The festival is grand in every aspect \u2014 the decorations, the tents, the songs and dances accompanying it, and obviously the food. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The following rituals and ceremonies take place in the Kashmiri weddings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also Read:<\/strong> Real wedding stories from Kashmir. <\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Malmaenz<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The celebration starts off with Malmaenz ceremony where the young women of the house tie the bride\u2019s hair into little braids. Then, these braids are undone by the elder women while Kashmiri folk songs<\/a> are sung. Only very close relatives and friends are present on this occasion. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The ceremony is held for brides only and now\nmany people prefer to skip it. Instead, brides now apply the mehndi on this day\nitself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fun Fact: <\/strong>This ceremony doesn\u2019t make to the wedding cards. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Maenzraat<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Meanzraat takes place in the night following the Malmaenz ceremony. It is also known as Mehandiraat. There is no deception here; it is the usual Mehandi ceremony in which Mehandi or Heena is applied on the bride\u2019s hands and feet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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But for the groom, it’s different. Mehandi is applied on his little finger only, which is wrapped with 500 or 2000 rupees note as a sign of good luck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Before the mehndi ceremony of the groom begins, a few girls from the groom\u2019s family visit the bride\u2019s home with beautifully decorated tokris and trays having the shagun mehandi. The girls apply the mehandi on the fingertips of the brides, which is left undone by the mehandi artist<\/a> particularly for this ceremony. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The girls also bring a mehandi cake for the bride. The cake is cut in the presence of the girls and relished by all. Usually, there are two cakes as the bride\u2019s family also gets one. The groom also cuts a cake at his mehandi ceremony. Depending on the preference of the host, you might savour any type and flavor of the cake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The ceremony is elevated by the Kashmiri Gyawun<\/a> and wanwun sung by Kashmiri ladies using instruments like tumbaknaer. Many times, you will find a professional wedding singer<\/a> too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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During the day, a grand feast is usually\nheld for male friends and family from the bride\u2019s side. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Yiniwol<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

After the Mehndiraat, comes the Yiniwol. It starts with aab sherun ceremony for the bride followed by Nikkah and then a grand feast, and finally the baraat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Here are the details about each ceremony. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

a. Aab Sherun<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

In the morning following the Meanzraat ceremony, Aab Sherun ritual is held. It is a ceremony in which the bride takes bath and wears a Pheran<\/a>, a traditional Kashmiri dress with tilla work done on it (embroidery of silver and golden thread). Then she offers two rakats of namaz and recites the verses from the holy Quran. Aab sherun is usually followed by Nikkah (more on that below). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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b. The Food <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

On the bride\u2019s side, a grand feast is held for the women during the day. The lunch is preceeded by Kehwa and shirmal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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c. Yiniwol Day for Groom<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

On the groom\u2019s side, the day starts with the ceremony where the groom is given a haircut in the presence of all the female relatives who sing songs during the ceremony. Later, a grand feast is held for distant male folks as the close relative will accompany the groom in his baraat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

d. Baraat<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

After the feast is over, preparations start for baarat. The bride\u2019s family makes special arrangements for food (mahraaz saal) and d\u00e9cor. Also, there is a special platform known Masnand made of finest silk made just for the groom. The baraatis usually arrive anywhere between 8-11PM. Sometimes, Nikkah takes place at this time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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While some prefer to keep the baraat simple\nand only take around 4-10 people, usually the baraatis range between 20-100. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

e. Rukhsati<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

After the Mahraazsaal is over, the bride bids final goodbye to her family members and moves with her husband to her new home also known as Waeriv (Sasural) in a well-decorated car. Rukhsati<\/a> is also known as vidai or bidai. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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She is accompanied by a few close relatives and friends who carry her trousseau usually having traditional copper items such as dry fruit box, quran rehal, and also her gold jewellery. They make her comfortable in the new home and then go back within half an hour. This ceremony marks the end of the two-day event for the bride\u2019s family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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4. Walima<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The day following the baraat is known as\nwalima. It starts with a custom in the morning where the sister of the groom\ntakes tea for the newlyweds. Then, the brother of the bride visits her with a\ntraditional samovar usually filled with dry fruits. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the day, a feast is held for the women relatives of the groom. The number of people can go anywhere between 100-500 or even more. While the invitation cards mention the time as 2 PM, the lunch is usually served anywhere between 3-7PM. Be prepared. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Nikah Khawaani<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While Nikah is the most important part of a Muslim wedding, it is given the least importance in Kashmiri weddings. It may have either taken place before the wedding on the Nikkah-nishaen (engagement ceremony held months before the wedding) or takes place on the wedding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no specific time for Nikkah. It is either carried out in the morning of Mehndiraat or Yini Wol (baraat). Sometimes, it\u2019s the first thing that takes place after the Mehraaz (groom) arrives with his baraat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The Nikkah usually takes places in the bride\u2019s\nhouse. There are two types of Nikkah \u2013 Wakaltan Nikkah and Asaltan Nikkah. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

a. Wakaltan Nikkah<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

In this type of Nikkah, the bride and groom\nare in their respective homes. The ceremony begins by asking the groom the\nconsent for the marriage. Usually done by the close relatives such as maternal\nor paternal uncles of the groom (who are known as wakeels). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, these relatives visit the bride\u2019s\nhome along with the Qazi. Their also, the paternal and maternal uncles of the\nbride act as her wakeel. They ask for her consent and tell her all the details\nof the marriage and the Mahr received (gifts from the groom). Once both have agreed,\nNikkah is done. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

b. Asaltan Nikkah<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

This is the one you would have seen on TV where both the groom and bride are present and there is a curtain between them. The Qazi recites the Quranic verses, asks for the consent from both the sides, and prays for the newlyweds. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What to wear for a Kashmiri wedding<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Amidst the ceremonies and cheerful hustle-bustle of guests, you might notice that women change their dress twice a day, each one better than the last. Obviously, the bride looks most gorgeous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can wear traditional party wear clothes such as shalwar kameez, lehnga, sharara, gown, etc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Wedding Feasts and Food \u2013 The Wazwaan<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Kashmiri weddings are all about the food where the traditional wazwaan<\/a> is served. Even the day of the wedding is set according to the availability of the waza (chef who prepares wazwaan). The meal comprises of different varieties of dishes ranging anywhere between 10-40. Lamb is used predominantly along with the chicken. You will find only 2-3 vegetarian dishes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Let\u2019s get to know wazwaan and the feasts a\nlittle bit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Preparation of Wazwaan<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Preparation of wazwaan takes a long time and that is what makes it so special. It\u2019s delicious beyond your taste buds can imagine! You might notice there are a lot of chefs beating the meat with a wooden hammer. But why? Because it enhances the taste of the meat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Wazwaan dishes are preferably cooked in nickel-plated copper vessels. Old fruit tree wood is used for fire. The cooking takes place under the supervision of Vaste Waza (master chief) who is accompanied by his team. The Mawal flowers or Kashmiri chilies are used to give colour to these delicacies, also adding some flavour to it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Fun Fact: <\/strong>The wazwaan is so special that the family is judged for the taste of the food served at the wedding for years to come. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. What Makes Kashmiri Wedding Feasts Special <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

To start with, you don\u2019t eat alone. You are\nsupposed to sit with four people who will share the wazwaan with you in a\ntrammi. Now, some people prefer to have buffets for it reduces the waste in\nweddings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As soon as the preparations for the meal begins, groups are formed having 4 people. Next, attendants will bring multiple Tash Naers (Tash fashioned like a teapot and Naer is a basin). They are taken near everyone to let the guests wash their hands. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Once that is done, long sheets are spread (dastarkhans \u2013 cloth or disposable). Then the attendants will bring in the Traem or Trammi (beautifully engraved copper platter) covered with Sarposh (a lid that keeps the wazwaan warm) and serve to the groups one by one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There are few things you will notice:<\/p>\n\n\n\n