{"id":4773,"date":"2019-07-21T16:23:12","date_gmt":"2019-07-21T10:53:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.khandarstudio.com\/nikah\/?p=4773"},"modified":"2019-07-26T21:24:07","modified_gmt":"2019-07-26T15:54:07","slug":"malal-offend-kashmiri-weddings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.khandarstudio.com\/kashmiri-wedding\/malal-offend-kashmiri-weddings\/","title":{"rendered":"Planning a Kashmiri Wedding? Here are 8 creepy malal that you will face"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

A wedding is one of the auspicious events but a single mistake can be a big eyesore. That\u2019s because a Kashmiri wedding is incomplete without<\/a> someone getting offended. Especially, when the elders of the family have magnifying glasses for nitpicks. Everyone is seeking special attention keeping aside their common sense leading to hatak and malal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be it close or distant relatives, everybody has an invisible microscope to pick out mistakes in our weddings. It is fierce competition! However, in an event in which there are a lot of guests and cascade of ceremonies<\/a> to manage, these wedding hataks are inevitable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Let\u2019s take a look at some of the weird things for which people\nfeel offended in Kashmiri weddings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Who came to give the card offend – Card kem on?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You might be busy having all the responsibilities of a big event but if you don\u2019t personally give the card to your guests, they will get offended. If you can\u2019t go yourself, it\u2019s important to send someone close to you. Any other means is not acceptable. If you send via a helper or driver, seriously, it is a blunder!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Also, if someone’s card is kept at their near one\u2019s place,\nthat\u2019s another reason for hatak. The card should be handed over to the right\nowner or don\u2019t expect those people at your wedding. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2) The time offend – Tre do bronth kus chu sozan card?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Even if the person knows the wedding is on said date, receiving a card before two days will make the guest\u2019s head to explode out of frustration. Like what is two days? We need two weeks! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So you’d better take off some time from your hectic schedule to deliver the card on time. After all, they are your honored guests and currently out of empathy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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3) The name offend \u2013 Card kemsind nav oos?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

One is sure to pick out spelling mistakes both in the name and address printed on the label of the card. Further queries like \u2018Why isn’t our family head’s name on the card?”, “Oh, you forgot our caste?” adds oil to the burning fire of malal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Also, God forbid if you wrote the daughter-in-law’s name instead of her husband or fathers-in-law, it\u2019s another story – both for you and the girl. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things become worse when such people meet you at the wedding, they stare at your face like you’ve have bought abomination with you. And when they confront you about the name issue, you can\u2019t help but try to lighten the situation with a silly joke making matters even worse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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4. The \u2018You didn\u2019t invite me on fala fala ceremony\u2019 offend \u2013\nasi prusukh hi na!!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Not everyone will be invited to all the ceremonies. Who will make people understand this? Malal chu zaruri. Further, who goes with the mehndi girls, phirsaal, and satim doh determines the closeness of rishta. More reasons to get offended. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This doesn\u2019t end here. When there\u2019s a wedding at your own place, you invite people using the same logic \u2018they didn\u2019t invite us, why should we?\u2019 leading to a malal war. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5) The Mehraaz Saal offend <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We all know the significance of a mahraaz saal. The groom is\nseen as a king and the baraatis as his glorified companions. First, the host\nneeds to take care of this ready-to-get-offended troop. That\u2019s a story for\nanother day. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the interesting part comes from the bride\u2019s own side. That is even the bride’s relatives want their son-in-law to be a part of the mahraaz saal. No one knows what a disaster might happen if you don\u2019t invite (or let\u2019s say beg) them to attend the ceremony. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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6) The \u2018where is my Traemi\u2019 offend \u2013 teemav sooz na kehn ti<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The in-laws of our recently engaged cousins don\u2019t attend the wedding even though a card is sent (again by a very close person). However, 1 or 2 males do attend the wedding. Firstly, it\u2019s important to make them feel extra special. And if the host doesn\u2019t attend to them nicely, then the family whose in-laws they are, feel offended. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n

Further, as a good host, we send a traemi of wazwaan<\/a> to such in-laws. However, if you forget that, then don\u2019t worry as nothing much will happen except that they\u2019ll never forget it. NEVER!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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7. The new daughter-in-law offend<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Almonds are put over the newlywed bride when she attends a marriage of a close relative. If not taken care of, the mother-in-law and the aligned relatives will have piercing eyes, and this time silly jokes won’t even stand a chance as a defense! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\n\nLooks like this is the only time the in-laws care for their daughter-in-law. (Just kidding or not!)\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8) The food offend<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Everyone seeks a little bit of attention as it feels good. Some of us take this to the next level during a wedding. People expect the host to do a nagin dance to insist on them to eat. And if you don\u2019t do so, then the wazwaan seems to be lacking an ingredient which was necessary for their digestion!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life is awesome without malal. Try it!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Picture this: You go to a relatives’ house for a meeting after the wedding. Between the cheerful gossip and gup-shup, the relative mentions they were offended (which is rarely the case as you will have to decipher it yourself). He\/she stares at your face for a while with gloom and then laughs it away. You can\u2019t sleep the following night. You can\u2019t forget their gloomy face. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It is easy for everyone to pick out mistakes in another person, and it feels good (damn, human nature). It gives us a sense of superiority; it makes us feel more godlike. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, when we find ourselves in similar situations, our godly stature seems to crumble. Humans are bestowed with sympathy and empathy to understand each other. Trust me, it is very handy. We should use it sometimes and feel its joy, especially during the gigantic Kashmiri weddings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Have a funny malal story to share? Let us know in the comments below. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Author: Nandan Singh<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n