{"id":5412,"date":"2020-07-23T14:38:25","date_gmt":"2020-07-23T09:08:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.khandarstudio.com\/nikah\/?p=5412"},"modified":"2020-07-23T14:48:43","modified_gmt":"2020-07-23T09:18:43","slug":"kashmiri-girl-gets-to-hear-rishta-fied","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.khandarstudio.com\/kashmiri-wedding\/kashmiri-girl-gets-to-hear-rishta-fied\/","title":{"rendered":"21 Things Every Kashmiri Girl Gets To Hear Till She Is Rishta-Fied"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When a girl is born in Kashmir, the first thing that comes to mind of our dear parents is ‘koor che nakh walin<\/em>\u2019 (ladki ki shadi karwani ha). I mean, she’s just born and you’re worried about a thing that’s likely to take at least 20-30 years. Being a girl is no easy thing anywhere, bro, especially in Kashmir. You get to hear a lot of “baatein” since childhood. ‘A lot’ actually doesn’t even cover it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Let us jot down a few:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dear Men, before you start judging this article, we know you won’t get it.. So stop reading here. Girls, please continue.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.<\/strong> Your parents keep reminding you that you’re gonna get married soon even though you’re only 15. Haina? Everything starts and ends with ‘Pagah chui wariv ghar gasun, tait ti karkh\u00e8 yee?<\/em>‘ Hindi translation: kal ko doosre ghar jana hai wahan bhi yehi karogi? English: There’s no way to put it in English. English language doesn’t have the right emotions for it. Sorry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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2.<\/strong>Parents will relate every damn thing to your marriage and in-laws ‘Aisa nai karo, waise nai karo, kal ko sasural wale kya bolenge<\/em>\u201d This is like routine and it doesn\u2019t stop till you get married.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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3.<\/strong>If your parents enter your room (no doubt they’ll have difficulty finding you because you look as messy as your room \ud83d\ude1b ), bas lecture shuru..<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Catchphrase:<\/em> Kamra saaf rakho, khud ko sambhal nahi sakti, KAL KO DOOSRON ko kya sambhalogi?! <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arey pehle mai khud toh sambhal jawu \ud83d\ude1b<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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4.<\/strong> Your gender is somehow made out to be handicapped. You’re a “GIRL”<\/em> is your parents reason for everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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5.<\/strong> Your mum, relatives AND neighbours, basically everyone keeps telling you to learn to cook food otherwise your saas will think your mum didn’t teach you well. Not just cook but become a MasterChef in order to impress everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Catchphrase:  “Pagah karan aisi kath\u00e8..wanan maaji chi ni kihiin hechnevmicz..<\/em>“<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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6.<\/strong> If by any chance you refuse to work because you’re tired, Wrong Move, darling. You’re not supposed to say NO to work because you have to work like a KHARR. Thakna manna hai!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Catchphrase: “korei gasei kamar doer aasun.. (Ladki ki peeth mazboot honi chahye meaning thakni nai chahye)”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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7.<\/strong>Also, try watching TV while relaxing your legs instead of sitting properly. Your grandmother will come from nowhere to say, “Kyah govm kya govm yi chi mandach..thav zangg\u00e8 watith sirf chakh zange wahravan<\/em>\u201d Lulz .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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8.<\/strong>After hearing all this, if you go and sit in your room to have some ‘me-time’, you’ll be called names like kirayedar (paying guest)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Catchphrase:  \u201cKunizen kya chak yeti karaan..wal wass bonn..waervi ti karkhe yee..yell ni aadat aasi<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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9.<\/strong> Girls are supposed to eat EVERYTHING. You can\u2019t dislike anything. Say goodbye to your taste buds because \u201cWinki paeth thaw hael sorui khyenas..yim nakhre che ni wairve chalaan<\/em>” (Meaning abi se aadat rakho sab khane ki ,ye nakhre sasural me nahi chalenge.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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10.<\/strong> Girls are not allowed to get injured. Not even accidentally. God forbid if you get hurt, instead of consoling all you get to hear is \u201cKore mohniw’as gasei haess karun (ladki ko khayal rakhna chahiye..Kuch ooonch neeeeech hogayi toh?!)<\/em>\u201d Han han..baki to pahad se chilang bhi mar le kya faraq padta haina<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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11.<\/strong>Most importantly, you can\u2019t get angry. You are supposed to swallow your anger even if your facial expressions don’t allow you to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Catchphrase: ‘czei kyazi chui sharaarat khasaan? B\u00e8 chas wanaan cze kya karakh pagah hashei?’  (Tumko kyun jaldi naakh chadti ha..kal ko saas ko kya karogi)<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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12.<\/strong> Getting threats such as “Hone do shadi tumhari, tumhe saas theek karegi<\/em>,” (Just wait till you get married, your mother-in-law will set you straight)<\/em> Shadi karni hai ya kisi jailer ke yahan umar qaid hai?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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13.<\/strong> When some relative from Videsh gets you something, you are supposed to keep it locked away. Reason- ye thaw tulith, Pagah laegi paansi (Meaning abi istimal mat karo..Kal ko kaam aayega..kal chaahe tum raho ya na raho \ud83d\ude1b )<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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14.<\/strong> There is a constant battle between “kooor gasne zyada parnaavin<\/em>” and “ladki ko independant hona chahiye aj k zamane me<\/em>“.  They tell you to study hard, have a nice job and after working this hard there is STILL no guarantee for you to continue your job because “Ye chui sorui khandaar’as taain.. naukri karke kin na, eas kya hakaw wanith<\/em>… “<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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15.<\/strong> Having relatives look at you like a product with a list of specifications the minute you reach SHADI KI UMAR. Baal lambe hone chahiye(Zyutth mass chu sajaan<\/em>), Chehre saaf karo( no pimples), healthy hojao (Dieting karo) etc<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two cases arise:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n